Showing posts with label grief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label grief. Show all posts

Sunday, September 12, 2021

9/11: 20 Years Later

[Note: this was first posted on 9/11/2010. I am repeating it here as we look back 20 years later]

Living Through the Grief and the Loss and the Terror

I will never forget that morning on September 11, 2001. My wife called me from work to tell me to turn on CNN. All of us across the country felt the shock and the numbness. All of us felt the uncertainty of what lay ahead.

I heard comments about this tragic event being the first time that terrorism had impacted our own land here at home. Like everyone else in the country, I watched the news each day and hoped for some resolution, some return to normalcy. Even as I was feeling the shock and the sorrow, I knew that this was not the first experience of terrorism on our shores.

On the first anniversary of 9/11, I wrote the following poem as a way to bring my thoughts and feelings together to commemorate the day. The poem is written in two voices. I have italicized every other stanza to help keep the two voices separate while at the same time blending those voices together in a search for where to go from here.

Looking back 20 years later, I'm not sure we've come to a healthy reckoning with our grief or of our place as a people on our one and only planet. More on that later in the week





When Towers Collapse
by Charles Kinnaird

It was an invasion
Of stealth, arrogance and deceit
That brought the two towers down
And inflicted a wound that would not heal.

                                                                                       When the steel and concrete gave way
                                                                                       Something inside gave way
                                                                                       As if the soul could drop to Sheol
                                                                                       While the body still finds its breath.


“From where the sun now stands, I will fight no more forever,”
Chief Joseph told us.
There is the urge to fight back,
But fighting will not rebuild the towers.
Killing will not heal our wounds.
Our songs may remember the two towers
But the towers will never be replaced.

                                                                                    How will thousands of bodies ever be found?
                                                                                    How will each soul be remembered?
                                                                                    How will the hole be filled?
                                                                                    Too many empty spaces
                                                                                    Where fathers, mothers, sisters and sons once sat.
                                                                                    So many empty places in too many beds,
                                                                                    All vacated with the passing of a single day.


Your twin towers collapsed.
We had our own towers, so to speak.
There was the Land
And there was our Culture –
Those were the strong towers
That held our lives
And nurtured our spirits.
Our land was taken
And our culture collapsed over time
After a systematic campaign of terror.
Where is the monument that could hold our grief?
Where is the house that can contain our sorrow?

                                                                                    There is the instinct to reciprocate,
                                                                                    To lash back at the enemy.
                                                                                    Let them taste their own bitter tears.
                                                                                    Visit hate with hate.


We lived with devastation and heartache
With a wound that would not heal.
Our names still echo throughout the land:
Tallapoosa, Wetumpka, Sylacauga,
Ohatchee.
Notasulga, Tuscaloosa, Weogufka,
Chatahootchee.
Why could our daughters and sons not grow
In the lands that bear our names?

                                                                                  May we never forget those whose lives were taken.
                                                                                  We must learn to walk with sorrow and wisdom,
                                                                                  Celebration and sadness.
                                                                                  We must learn to live with grief for what was,
                                                                                  Joy for what will be,
                                                                                  And gratitude for what remains.


Chippewa, Tallahassee,
Minnetonka.
Chattanooga, Ouachita,
Oneida.
Our names continue to call out
Like too many empty beds.
Like so many empty homes
Our names call out.
We must learn to live with the pain
From the wound that will not heal
While we reach for the balm
That comes from living
In the hoop of the world.

                                                                                Today we walk on bloodstained ground.
                                                                                Both the blood of our forebears
                                                                                And the stain of our own doing.
                                                                                We see times of collapse
                                                                                And times of building up.
                                                                                Some days, we will fight.
                                                                                One day, we will fight no more forever.


The hawk rises
But our wound will not heal.
We may know joy
But we cannot hide our grief.
We may live with wisdom,
But we cannot erase the sorrow.
We will not erase the sorrow.






Monday, March 30, 2020

Fourth Station of the Cross: Jesus Meets His Sorrowful Mother

[The following is from a series first posted during Lent in 2015.]

< The Third Station of the Cross                                                                            The Fifth Station of the Cross >


Jesus meets his mother, Mary, who is filled with grief

A woman cries after her son was killed in an airstrike in Basra

When a nation increases its strength and influence to the point that it becomes Empire, the primary concern becomes to preserve its own power and influence.  In Matthew 25, Jesus said that the true measure of a nation is in how it treats the weakest and most vulnerable within its borders. Empire, on the other hand, often relies only upon one tool – military power – to solve any problem. As such, the loss of innocent lives becomes collateral damage which, to Empire, is only to be expected.

When collateral damage has no face that Empire can recognize, then many mothers will weep in the wake of military campaigns, airstrikes, and drone attacks done in the name of establishing freedom and security.



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Friday, March 30, 2018

Good Friday (Keeping Silent)

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Paschal Triduum: A Personal Journey

Good Friday



Keeping Silent
(A Song of Mark)

Now we remember.
He told us to say nothing
But how could we keep quiet?

“Tell no one.”
But we blurted it out
In our ignorance.

Our demons shouted
And he ordered silence
But our silence could not be kept.

Now as the darkness creeps in
And hope is taken
Like a poor migrant
Bound on an outward caravan,
No one can speak
No song can be heard
None dare say what we thought we knew.

The time for singing has passed;
Gone are the days of glad shouts
And hopeful chatter.

We, once lively pilgrims – all of us –
Turn each to our own indefinite way
Where no one gives voice to what was heard,
No one tells of what was seen.
When an empty tomb offers no consolation
In our grief, we finally honor his admonition,
“Tell no one.” 

We keep silent.

                                                                                                              ~ CK

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“Trembling and bewildered, the women went out and fled from the tomb. They said nothing to anyone, because they were afraid.” (Mark 16:8)
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Photo: "Dead Tree and Pacific"
Credit: Brocken Inaglory
Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons


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Sunday, November 26, 2017

Sufi Tears

Sufi Mosque on the Sinai Peninsula (European Press photo) 
(Headline from The New York Times)


Sufi  Tears

They opened doors to a world
Where sunlight lifts the heart
And words are like
The sweetest garden nectar.

The Sufi’s song to the Beloved
Created a space
Where all can find peace.
Their poets
Brought wholeness
To a fragmented world.

They told the world
Of a divine realm,
Just behind the breath
Of every searching soul,
Where the Beloved offers companionship
Throughout the measure of our days.

Now zealot bombs have shattered
That sacred space,
Spilling blood
And taking lives
In a mindless cacophony
Of shrapnel and smoke.

Mothers wail
As bodies lay scattered.
Bitter grief
Seizes the chests of husbands and fathers
While the Beloved weeps nearby.

What world is this
That cannot endure beauty,
Whose sons must shatter every light?
  
Sadness descends upon us
As we grieve
For our Sufi kin.
We would almost
Despair for our own future.

Yet in our sorrow,
We reach out
To those Sufi souls we seek to comfort.
It is they who will continue to nurture
The song of the Beloved,
And it is they who will dress
The wounds of the world
Until our violence ceases.

                                                ~ CK




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Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Fourth Station of the Cross: Jesus Meets His Sorrowful Mother

[The following is from a series first posted during Lent in 2015.]

< The Third Station of the Cross                                                                            The Fifth Station of the Cross >


Jesus meets his mother, Mary, who is filled with grief

A woman cries after her son was killed in an air strike in Basra

When a nation increases its strength and influence to the point that  it becomes Empire, the primary concern becomes to preserve its own power and influence.  In Matthew 25, Jesus said that the true measure of a nation is in how it treats the weakest and most vulnerable within its borders. Empire, on the other hand, often relies only upon one tool – military power – to solve any problem. As such, the loss of innocent lives becomes collateral damage which, to Empire, is only to be expected.

When collateral damage has no face that Empire can recognize, then many mothers will weep in the wake of military campaigns, air strikes, and drone attacks done in the name of establishing freedom and security.



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Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Lines of Grief






Lines of Grief 

My word processor does not understand poetry –
It just processes –
Green lines and red lines
Striving to auto correct
By predetermined rules;
Calling for clean black letters
On a pure white background.

Some people are like that.
Confronted with devastating news
They say,
“Give me some time to process that.”

Processing is not needed.
Only tears are needed –
And sometimes wailing,
Sometimes shouting.

Processing is dry as a bone.
Tears are wet with life.
Their lines of grief
The only authentic response.

                                                  ~ CK





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Photo by Giulio Giacconi (Getty Images)



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Friday, March 13, 2015

The Fourth Station of the Cross: Jesus Meets His Sorrowful Mother

< The Third Station of the Cross                                                                            The Fifth Station of the Cross >


Jesus meets his mother, Mary, who is filled with grief

A woman cries after her son was killed in an air strike in Basra

When a nation increases its strength and influence to the point that  it becomes Empire, the primary concern becomes to preserve its own power and influence.  In Matthew 25, Jesus said that the true measure of a nation is in how it treats the weakest and most vulnerable within its borders. Empire, on the other hand, often relies only upon one tool – military power – to solve any problem. As such, the loss of innocent lives becomes collateral damage which, to Empire, is only to be expected.

When collateral damage has no face that Empire can recognize, then many mothers will weep in the wake of military campaigns, air strikes, and drone attacks done in the name of establishing freedom and security.



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Friday, April 18, 2014

Good Friday (Keeping Silent)

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Paschal Triduum: A Personal Journey

Good Friday



Keeping Silent
(A Song of Mark)

Now we remember.
He told us to say nothing
But how could we keep quiet?

“Tell no one.”
But we blurted it out
In our ignorance.

Our demons shouted
And he ordered silence
But our silence could not be kept.

Now as the darkness creeps in
And hope is taken
Like a poor migrant
Bound on an outward caravan,
No one can speak
No song can be heard
None dare say what we thought we knew.

The time for singing has passed;
Gone are the days of glad shouts
And hopeful chatter.

We, once lively pilgrims – all of us –
Turn each to our own indefinite way
Where no one gives voice to what was heard,
No one tells of what was seen.
When an empty tomb offers no consolation
In our grief, we finally honor his admonition,
“Tell no one.” 

We keep silent.

                                                                                                              ~ CK

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“Trembling and bewildered, the women went out and fled from the tomb. They said nothing to anyone, because they were afraid.” (Mark 16:8)
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Photo: "Dead Tree and Pacific"
Credit: Brocken Inaglory
Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons


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Friday, December 28, 2012

The Feast of the Holy Innocents




Then was fulfilled what had been spoken through the prophet Jeremiah:
                                               
                                                      A voice was heard in Ramah,
                                                      wailing and loud lamentation,
                                                      Rachel weeping for her children;
                                                      she refused to be consoled,
                                                      because they are no more.
                                                              
                                                                     ~Matthew 2:17,18


December 28 is the Feast of the Holy Innocents. Dating back to the fifth century, this feast day commemorates the slaughter of all male children under the age of two as ordered by Herod, the Roman appointed King of the Jews.  Every year in the Christmas story, we hear of this action as recorded in the Gospel of Matthew. It is often given only cursory attention. The Coventry Carol recalls the tragedy of “Herod the King, in his raging/ Charged he hath this day/ His men of might, in his own sight/ All young children to slay.”  Usually I do not dwell on that aspect of Christ’s coming into the world.  When I do think about it, I think of how horrible an event like that would be, but I don’t let myself feel the pain of such a slaughter.  After all, it is Christmas – a time to dwell upon the joy and the wonder of the season.

This year, however, the death of the innocents came all too close to home. We could not help feeling the pain and the loss when the news came of 20 young children in Newtown, Connecticut being shot in their class room by an unstable man with a high capacity assault rifle. All of the children were 6 or 7 years old. For days the news of the killings at Sandy Hook Elementary School filled our TV screens. The President visited the town and spoke to the community and the nation at a prayer vigil for those children and adults who lost their lives. Funerals were held and the nation mourned along with the Connecticut families whose children were taken away in an instant.

This year, the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre in Newtown has given us a different perspective. We have been forced to realize that while we celebrate the coming of light into a world of darkness, we still live with much darkness.  We speak of the wonder of Emmanuel, “God with us,” while we are forced to ask ourselves were God was on this day.  For me, because of the truth that God is with us, then God must be here suffering with us, as God does with each daily tragedy somewhere in the world. We who are living are left to ask ourselves what we will do in light of this suffering to make our world a safer place.

Much has been written in recent days dealing with these very questions of how could this happen and what can we do now? While the story recalled by the Coventry Carol at Christmas can be neatly explained by an evil king with an army at his disposal, our tragedy is not so simple.  Rather than wringing our hands and saying,  “Oh, how evil this is,” we must address the systemic flaws in our country that make us more susceptible to gun violence than any other industrialized nation.  Many innocents died this December because we have a woefully inadequate mental health system, and we have woefully glorified the use and ownership of guns. These are problems that can be addressed if we have the courage to change our ways.

Here are a few articles that have been written in the wake of the Sandy Hook tragedy:

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For this liturgical day to call to mind the Holy Innocents, here is a prayer from the church liturgy:


A Prayer To The Holy Innocents

Holy Innocents, you died before you were old enough to know what life means, pray for all children who die young that God may gather them into His loving arms.

Holy Innocents, you were killed because one man
was filled with hatred, pray for those who hate that God may touch their hearts and fill them with love.

Holy Innocents, you experienced a violent death, pray for all who are affected by violence that they may find peace and love.

Holy Innocents, your parents grieved for you with deep and lasting sorrow, pray for all parents who have lost young children that God may wrap a warm blanket of comfort around them.

Holy Innocents, those around you certainly felt helpless to prevent your deaths, pray for all who feel helpless in their circumstances that they may cling to God for courage and hope.

Holy Innocents, you who are now in Heaven, pray for all of us that one day we may join you there to bask in God's love forever.

Amen.



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Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Shakespeare's Horse




The following poem was written a few years ago after reading Shakespeare's Sonnet 50 which you may read for yourself here.





Shakespeare's Horse
(In response to Sonnet 50)

Magnificent was the beast
Who carried our noblest poet,
The one who gave voice to humanity's woes and triumphs;
Whose song would be heard for ages to come
And whose words would set the standard
For a new era.

Perhaps it was a country lane,
Or it may have been a London side street
That they traveled that day.

"Beast of burden" is too trite a term
For the equine essence
Who collaborated in the Bard's journey.
The man bore within his heart
All the joys and sorrows of a people,
And enough dreams of love and despair
   to fill the world.
It was not the first time
That a four-legged creature
Carried humanity's hopes
Along an earthly road.

Which is why one is jolted
Disappointed
And dismayed
To hear of the poet thoughtlessly kicking
A bloody spur
Into the side
Of his creature companion.
            How unlike a god.

But here is that redeeming moment seen
Which covers many doubts that might have been:

The horse's groan
Resonated with the poet's own grief
And gave voice to his unutterable heart-felt emotion.
It brought the man to himself
To live in the moment
On the road,
On the journey,
Bearing his own burden.

And the groan shared by man and beast
Spoke more than all the words that would come
From the acclaimed poet's pen.

Charles Kinnaird





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